Citations:pick-me

English citations of pick-me and pick me

Noun: "(slang, derogatory) synonym of pick-me girl"

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2005 June 28, Stephanie Lessing, “Recruitment Tactics”, in She’s Got Issues, New York, N.Y.: Avon Trade, →ISBN, page 11:
She is so far above this whole “pick me” scene. She’s more of a “don’t pick me” girl. Her whole face is covered in powdery white foundation, and her eyes are rimmed with a thick black liner that's dripping down her cheek on one side, and I think that’s blood on her lips.
2020, Mikki Kendall, Hood Feminism: Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot‎, page 74:
Yet the “pick me” culture, a phenomenon where some women announce their willingness to adhere to these arbitrary standards, is evident on Twitter and other social media sites.
2020, Chloe Mant, "The performative nature of dating", TN2 Magazine (Trinity College Dublin), Summer 2020, page 29:
This misogynist take has been deeply ingrained in society and has even lead to women tearing down other women and gives way to what is informally known as a 'pick me' culture, where women completely change their views, behaviours and personality to become more desirable to men.
2021, Mali Collins, Jennifer C. Nash, “The Language Through Which Black Feminist Theory Speaks: A Conversation With Jennifer C. Nash”, in Whitney Pirtle, Zakiya Lunal, editors, Black Feminist Sociology: Perspectives and Praxis‎, unnumbered page:
Black feminism upended the mischaracterization of its radical thrust as a mere menacing appendage to sociology or even Women's studies and rejected notions that it was a short-lived movement exploiting a "pick me” moment in the incorporation of growing demographic, political, and social changes occurring in the last decades of the 20th century.
2021, Ellie Franco Williams, "Dismantling Sexual Violence", Massive Magazine (Massey University, Palmerston North, NZ), Issue 7 (2021), page 27:
We cause harm through through slut-shaming, white supremacy, fat-shaming and being 'pick-mes'.
2021, Raquel Catpo, "Harmful Social Media Terminologies & Their Effects", The Thunderbolt (Mills High School, Millbrae, CA), May 2021, page 7:
According to Urban Dictionary, "A pick me is a woman that is willing to do anything for approval. She will embarrass or throw other women under the bus to achieve this goal."
2021, Veronica Preaskom, "Gender Inequalities and the Lack of Support", Oakton Outlook (Oakton High School, Vienna, VA), May 2021, page 34:
Alongside being called a “pick me” for watching sports, female athletes or even scholars are often called tryhards or told to just go back to the kitchen.
2021, Amy Grantham, "Why Do We Hate Everything That Teenage Girls Love?", QMunicate (University of Glasgow), Issue 149, Summer 2021, page 25:
Here comes the 'I'm not like other girls' trope, one of the guys, a 'pick me' one might say.
2021, Sabine Waldeck, "Phrase 'pick me' adds fuel to the fire that is internalized misogyny", The Berkeley Beacon (Emerson College), 21 October 2021, page 4:
“Pick me’s” say and do things to present themselves in a way where some might consider them different and special in comparison to other girls in order to gain male attention.
2022, Adinda Oktaviani, Linguistics Anthology Insights From Students Research, pages 58-59:
By saying "pick-me girls", some people these days do not necessarily refer to women experiencing internalized misogyny who choose to degrade other women through their speeches with the purpose of gaining admiration from the opposite sex as what we have discussed earlier in this study, instead, they simply call any females whose characteristics do not quite float their boat “pick-mes”, which we can categorize as a personal matter rather than a collective one since the judgement is based on individual's bias rather than specific speech characteristics such as the ones we have analyzed in the previous section.
2022, "Pierre Laclede Dating Service", Brain Stew (satirical magazine of Pierre Laclede Honors College), Issue 9, page 12:
Second off, we have software that can spot the pick-mes, and the “I'm not like other girls”.
2022, Inaaya Yousef, "Pick me!", The Print (Queen Mary University of London), February/March 2022, page 13:
To be the friend of a 'pick me' is an entirely different, degrading experience. The friend whom you pull into a warm embrace, would distance herself from you – should you step out of line with "the boys." She is unable to separate her 'friend' from her 'competition' due to the fact that she has been taught to view all women as competition.
2022, Tatum Hunter, "Needy, overconfident voice assistants are wearing on their owners’ last nerves", The Washington Post, 7 March 2022:
Why is Alexa always bragging about her capabilities and asking if you’d like her to do extra tasks, TikTok creator @OfficiallyDivinity wonders in a video. She accuses Alexa of being a “pick me,” a term for women willing to step on others to get approval.
2022, Annette Ejiofer, "Beyoncé is your bully’s favourite target and I know why", Toronto Star, 19 August 2022:
She sings against the mistakes of her husband, as in “Lemonade,” sharing his missteps with her fans, and this angers women stuck under the whims of men — the pick mes as the internet calls them.
2022, Mabel Banfield-Nwachi, "What The White Lotus gets wrong with Portia’s Gen-Z wardrobe", The Guardian, 11 December 2022:
So, she uses her clothes to try to assert herself, to show that she is somehow different (even if her actions suggest otherwise) in a “pick me” sort of way.
2024, Drew Afualo, Loud: Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve‎, unnumbered page:
Or think about the pick-me's claim that she's totally fine with how much her boyfriend salivates over Instagram models or flirts with his coworker, because she's not like other girls who are jealous and insecure.
2024, Margarita Nazarenko, The New Rules‎, unnumbered page:
But if you are a pick-me type of woman, you require that energy back. When a pick-me doesn't get that energy back after she's been dating him for a few months or a year, guess what ? She is blowing up his phone asking why he isn't consistent. She's asking him where he's going and all these other questions all the time because she expects her investment to be returned.
2024, Samantha Pinson Wrisley, anonymous quotee, “Heteropessimism and the Pleasure of Saying 'No'”, in Capacious: Journal for Emerging Affect Inquiry‎, volume 3, number 2, page 41:
Misogyny, male violence and female pick-me behaviour are biology.
2024, Katherine Murray, “Female Millennial Rage: The Weaponization of Cottagecore”, in Anastasia Klimchynskaya, Betsy Winakur Tontiplaphol, editors, The Literary Taylor Swift: Songwriting and Intertextuality‎, page 125:
While folklore and evermore do celebrate Swift's evolution from the "pick me" days of Fearless, the albums also use cottagecore landscapes and imagery as a vehicle for mourning simpler times.
2025, Tamura Lomax, Freeing Black Girls: A Black Feminist Bible on Racism and Revolutionary Mothering‎, unnumbered page:
A "pick me" might attempt to gain attention and alliance through slut-shaming and victim-blaming; expressing antiwomen or LTBTQ+ politics or being against choice and/or pro-heteropatriarchal male dominance; or name-calling like referring to women as too aggressive, angry, domineering, or otherwise.

Noun: "(slang, derogatory) a person who acts against the interests of their own (typically marginalized) group in the hope of obtaining majority favour"

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2020, Danica Seto, "White People, Please Pick Me", Overachiever Magazine, September 2020 (link):
Pick-mes are ideal for the role of the token minority friend since they often fall in line with racist beliefs used against their own community.
2020, Marissa Foster, "Stop being a 'pick me' person to fit in", Pepperpot (Georgetown, Guyana), 1 November 2020, page 20:
The most disgusting act I've seen from a "pick me" is when they'd bring others down or betray the ones who cared for them all in the name of "being accepted."
2022, Shreya Joshi, "Ghislaine Maxwell and the pathological pick-me syndrome", The Medium (University of Toronto Mississauga, 17 January 2022, page 6:
A “pick-me” person is desperate for acceptance from a particular group and will do whatever it takes to gain access to certain social circles and remain there.

Noun: "(slang, derogatory) someone who is desperate or overweening in their pursuit of a romantic partner"

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2024, Lily Womble, Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love‎, unnumbered page:
On the opposite side of never making the first move is muscling. Basically, this is micromanaging your dating life. Asking someone out, planning the date, confirming the time twice, following up immediately afterward, and worrying about the date and what they thought of you.
Muscling is Meredith Grey "pick me" behavior at its worst.
2025, Julie Krafchick, Yue Zu, How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love‎, page 63:
Once again, his date told him there wasn't any chemistry. By going into the date with this "pick me" mentality, Andrew came off as seeking approval, not connection.

Citations:pick-me

English citations of pick-me and pick me

Noun: "(slang, derogatory) synonym of pick-me girl"

Noun: "(slang, derogatory) a person who acts against the interests of their own (typically marginalized) group in the hope of obtaining majority favour"

Noun: "(slang, derogatory) someone who is desperate or overweening in their pursuit of a romantic partner"

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